Nick Tomlinson

I Have A Blogdream

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It's a nice sentiment. I think the reason we don't follow our childhood dreams is the realism that we have to make sacrifices to achieve those dreams and the question is always what are you willing to sacrifice??? In our society today this has become more and more difficult with the need of immediate gratification of material items. I for one and guilty of this. I have found that as I get older I have certain materialistic wants (not needs, but wants). To become many of those cool things we dream of as children it takes a tremendous amount of self discipline and sacrifice, usually of the immediate fun for the later reward. Ahhhh, but you ask,"My good man, Skippy, what are you talking about???" As children when we dream of those wonderful careers we never have a grasp of what it will take too achieve it, i.e. more school, longer hours of studying\training (for most, intense studying), less hanging out with friends, less partying, less blowing off steam and goofing off. Now mind you these other things are not necessarily bad, that's just the balance we choose. Do we deserve happiness? Hell yes I say! If we are not happy, then why don't we change it??? Answer: Sacrifice! We'll have to give up the job we have maybe for a lesser one that is more flexible with the schedule so we can go and get the education\training we want to achieve our dream, or we'll have to sacrifice getting that sweet ride and sticking it out with the jalopy or riding the bus, or watch the SuperBowl on a 19inch as opposed to the 65incher. Or giving up the house for the small crusty shoebox apartment (or living with family) until we plow through what we need to do to achieve the dream. Or maybe the realization is that the dream career was cool but the career doesn't pay for squat and we'd be much happier keeping up with the Jones' and working the job we hate for the nice toys to show off at the end of the day.... Good ol' Sacrifice... What are we willing to give up for that dream???

You pretty much nailed it there, Skippy. I suppose the ideal would be to get that perfect balance between sacrifice and immediate fun (or work and play)... But it's hard when our appetite for 'nice toys' seems to increase by the year. It gets more and more difficult to live without the padding of our home comforts. Then there are the manacles of debt...

I look back on my previous levels of income (and I'm no Bill Gates now) and think 'How on earth did I live on that?' - but at the time it was no big deal. I know plenty of people who'd love to ditch their job and go back to school, but they feel that making the leap would just cost them too much. If you have any stories (inspirational or cautionary) about people you know who've actually made the leap, it'd be great to hear them (or if you're thinking of making the leap yourself). If you were going to make a major sacrifice, what dream would motivate you to do it?

Oh, and Skippy - thanks for being the first to post a comment. Much appreciated!

Have a good Easter.

I guess you could say that I was fortunate enough to find the balance. I have certain hobbies things that I love to do but if I were to do them full time I would have to be happy with being able to put just a loaf of bread on the table. For example, like many kids in the world (not all) I wanted to run away and join the circus. Well if you do that the you better expect to live out of a trailer\camper and off of bread and water(or limited food)and I hate being on the road for long periods of time and love to eat. Buuuuutttttttt there was a local circus that I joined through a local university that offered it as a continuing education class. Mind you, this is a real circus minus animals and it did not travel. So I was able to be an acrobat and perform in front of thousands a few times a year. I didn't get paid and I practiced at night a couple times a week so I was able to maintain a full time job and still get paid yet I was able to fill the need I had. Worked out well. I performed in that circus for over 10 years and in a local one for a few years as well. My sacrifice was my free time(sitting in front of the tv and vegging). I think the biggest key to being able to pull off the balance is having the having the courage to seriously try and if you have a significant other in your life having their full support. For me the Mrs. ended up joining the circus too after seeing how much fun it was and how it would get you into shape during the winter seasons. Another hobby is skydiving. It's a rather expensive sport. Once again I needed the full support of the Mrs. Of course I let her know going into our relationship that this is what I did and in no circumstances was I going to give it up. She had the choice to deal with it and support me or at the time to find someone else to be with. Now that being said I have compromised and I don't jump as much as I used to because it is expensive and my priorities are family first. But I make sure to still keep that as part of my life which means maybe we don't take the nice vacation or cruise once a year or something. It also means that sometimes I can't go buy some other toy or go out to nice dinners and have to eat at home. Biggest thing is that the Mrs. supports me and I her, otherwise it would not work. We have supported each other with our endeavors, hers being training and running marathons and joining the circus and both of us going to school, my bachelors (which I did finish) and hers, her PhD which she is still working on. We understand that the other needs time to do those things even though we may spend time apart but we find ways to be involved and support the other. I guess what I'm getting at in the really long winded way is you have to have buy in and support from your family and find the creative ways of compromise to accomplish what you want, if you don't want to give up everything. Pending on where you live there are always a lot of options that you may not be aware of.

The Skippster

I think that having the support of people around you, especially if they're enthused about the same things as you, massively expands the boundaries of how adventurous you can feasibly be, and how much you're willing to give up. Having said that, my idea of adventure is starting a company blog. Joining the circus and jumping from planes while studying for degrees / training for marathons? Holy cats, that is serious commitment.

Sounds to me like you and your wife have the balance spot-on. I may have to print your post and put it on my fridge, so I can read it next time I'm tempted to skip karate and watch TV instead.

Nick.

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